The journey towards the goal
All the pieces fell into place when Beata Majewska found her dream job. But she has had to work hard to create the life she wanted.Erik (age 3) is ecstatic. Ice cream and balloons high up in Trondheim’s Tyholt Tower – it does not get much better than that. Beata treasures each second with her family, which she feels is the most important thing in life.
- I’ve got my dream job, so now I really just have to focus on family time, says Beata. She rents a home in Valentinlyst with her husband Alex. The goal is to purchase their own home in time.
DIFFICULT BEGINNINGSBeata’s father travelled to Norway to work as a craftsman, like so many other Poles seeking a better life. After just six months, he had an injury on the job. It was a miracle that he survived. He fell from the second floor on a construction site and was badly injured. Beata had to travel to Norway to help him. - It wasn’t easy arriving in Trondheim as a 20-year-old. We lived together in a den in Byåsen. I had no friends or network, and the family wanted me to study or get a job, so we could have a better life than in Poland, explains Beata.
To study, Beata first had to pass a Norwegian proficiency test for higher education. Here, she got to know many people and began forming a network. Unfortunately, one of these acquaintances would prove to be devastating.
- I began studying geography, but never showed up for the exam. I had no faith in myself
DESTRUCTIVE RELATIONSHIP- I got to know a boy, and we quickly became a couple. We found out that it was easier for me to move in with him, so I left the den, says Beata. This led to several years in isolations, as her self-confidence gradually disappeared and Beata had no hope for the future. Her father lived in a car, and she had no income or place to go. It would be two and a half years before she was able to break out of the unhealthy relationship, and she was more insecure than ever before.
- I began studying geography, but never showed up for the exam. I had no faith in myself, explains Beata. She combined studies in social anthropology with a cleaning job, because she was not entitled to a student loan. This quickly became too challenging and, again, she did not show up for her exam.
BETTER TIMESBeata moved into a shared flat after having managed to escape from her previous relationship. Here lived several girls, and she made friends for life. She even found love.
- I met my husband in university, so the studies were not a complete waste of time, she laughs.Alex is originally from the United States, and Beata fell for his cheerful demeanour. - We didn’t immediately become a couple, but Alex made me laugh and feel secure. I could talk to him about anything. Beata found the love of her life and also her best friend. - We were good together. We had mutual friends and both of us were interested in traveling. We travelled as often as possible. But I still felt guilty for not doing something sensible with my life. I had no education, worked part-time as a personal assistant, and my self-confidence was very low.
I cried when I received the call that I had got the job. Now I’m in the best job in the worldBeata began social work studies with a desire to help others and received a lot of support from Alex, who cheered her on. She completed her studies, thanks in large part to Alex.
GETTING HER DREAM JOBDuring her studies, Beata had a part-time administrative position. She greatly enjoyed this job. But she was bullied by a colleague, and when Alex had completed his master’s studies, they decided to move to Kristiansand, where Alex’s family had a cottage where they could live. Finding a job was urgent, since Alex’s permanent residence would expire in three months. Beata also became pregnant shortly after, so they needed an income.
- We didn’t want to move to the United States. We both wanted to live in Norway. So when Alex got a doctoral research fellowship in Trondheim, we travelled back.After the end of her maternity leave, Beata began applying for work.- My self-confidence was still at rock bottom.
- It had been a long time since I was part of the workforce, and I didn’t want to work as a social worker. Beata sat down and began thinking about what she wanted to do in life. She enjoyed the administrative duties she had in her previous job, and knew that she could work systematically and organised. She therefore decided to continue her development in that direction, and decided to take a semester studying legal administrative work at a vocational school.
- It’s the best decision I’ve ever made. The student environment was great and the teachers for the programme were excellent. It was very practice-oriented and I learned a lot. But most importantly, I regained my self-confidence.Beata began to believe in herself, and started her job hunt.
- There were no vacancy announcements that caught my eye, until the position at Conoptica as Order and Shipment Supervisor appeared, and I knew it was the one. I worked very hard on my presentation, and have never felt more motivated and prepared. I cried when I received the call that I had got the job. Now I’m in the best job in the world, and everyone here at Conoptica feel like family, says an emotional Beata.
THE GOOD LIFEErik laughs and gives mum a taste of his ice cream. He has been in day-care and the family are now going to enjoy a family night. It’s important to spend time with your family, says Beata.- Since I’ve got my dream job, my focus is now on having enough energy and time for my family.
Exercise also gives her energy, and it has been an important part of her life when things have been difficult.
- I didn’t exercise when I lived in Poland, but it’s easier to make it to the gym here in Norway. Exercise has kept me going in difficult times, and has been a source of happiness, explains Beata. She exercises at a gym near her home, and also has fitness equipment at home.
- We call home often. I miss them a lot, and wish they could visit more oftenBeata’s father still lives in Trondheim and they have a lot of contact with her mother and sister in Poland.- We call home often. I miss them a lot, and wish they could visit more often. We alternate between celebrating Christmas in Poland and the United States. We want to move to a bigger home, so we can have visitors more often, says Beata.
It is cold and dark outside. Beata likes the expression she has learned in Norway that ‘det finnes ikke dårlig vær, bare dårlige klær’ (‘there’s no such thing as bad weather, only bad clothing’). She has grown fond of cottage life and enjoys hiking, now also with Erik.
- It’s good for the soul, and you find peace when you’re in the mountains. We go hiking with friends, and it means a lot to us.
Children’s laughter rings out and dad is also laughing. It is nice to get up in the morning and be motivated to go to work. It is nice to feel like you’ve achieved something you wanted, and it is nice to feel like you matter. Beata has found happiness and managed to create a good life for herself in Norway.